Change Into Someone Who CARE(s)

by Al Smith

guest blog post by Frank Jennings

I had a long hard day. Work was horrible. It was so busy and everyone I talked to today was so upset. Not to mention I left my wallet at home and didn’t have money to buy lunch. I was starving. We are talking about 9 1/2 hours with no food. Just so you understand how the lack of food effects me I will compare myself to Eric Bana being slapped in the face by someone he HATES. I turn green and start stomping and throwing things.

At the end of my shift I call home to ask my wife to grab my wallet. I wanted her to meet me at the door so I could hastily go pick up dinner. During our conversation we decide on Boston Market and I quickly made my way on a frantic pursuit of my first meal of the day @ 5:00p.m.

As I am halfway to my destination my cell phone rings. Stuck in traffic I determine I am creeping along slowly enough and it would be safe to answer. It was the Mrs. She was informing me that a friend of ours was stranded and needed a ride home from work. My mind said, “I will get him after I pick up Boston Market.” :-) My mouth said, “Give him the number to the cell and I will pick him up.” Using today’s latest technology, pen and paper, what GPS cost way too much for me, I was able to pinpoint his exact location.

He was 10 minutes in the opposite direction.

Traffic was a mess. A drive that would normally take 10 minutes took 30 minutes today. With my lack of food I thought I had a bad attitude. Clearly compared to the way people were cutting me off and blowing their horns I was a saint. Now you would assume the person that I am helping is a close friend of mine. He actually is a friend of a friend.

Humbly he jumped in the car and told me how grateful he was that I would give him a ride. He helped me navigate the way to his apartment and walked in the house with a big smile on his face. Normally he would walk home from his job today the rain stopped him from making that journey. If I could describe the distance I would say it was about the distance Marlin and Dory traveled to find his son in Finding Nemo.

He kept saying thank you. I just kept thinking about times when I had been in his exact situation and had someone tell me no.

In this life we will have plenty of opportunities to leave lasting impressions on the people we come in contact with. I don’t know if I will ever see this person again but I am glad I was there when he needed me. I was hungry, tired, angry and stressed but some things are just more important. If there is a need you have and I have the resources to help I hope I have the strength to put you first.

Can you put someone else’s needs before your own?

If you do, the feeling you get afterward is indescribable. Trust me. Go find out for yourself. Prove to the world you C.A.R.E.

All it takes is one spark to start a fire that can change your life!

Frank JenningsAbout Today’s Guest
Today’s guest is Frank Jennings, the founder of A Spark Starts where he writes inspiring stories to help others reach their full potential. He writes with purpose. He writes with passion. He writes for you.

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Al Smith November 2, 2011 at 10:13 am

Thanks Frank. Love this story. Appreciate you taking the time to contribute to the series.
You are such a talented writer. The message is clear. I know you CARE, Frank.

I think we all need to continue to ask ourselves your amazing question;

Can you put someone else’s needs before your own?

Something to think about. thanks again Frank. Beautifully done.

Al

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Frank November 3, 2011 at 6:10 pm

Al,

Thanks for the opportunity to write for your site. I am glad you enjoyed what I was able to put together. This situation was challenging but it was very eye opening as well and I learned a lot from it.
Frank recently posted..Burned Food: A Story of Building Confidence

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Lori Gosselin November 2, 2011 at 2:42 pm

Hi Frank, Hi Al,
This is a great real-life story (you didn’t make it up did you Frank? :o LOL)
I don’t know how you managed to be so gracious on an empty stomach, though! It’s true, as Al says, there are moments when we can greatly affect a life with a little caring. (a little !?!) Sometimes it’s just a smile or a comment in a long line-up. Funny how we don’t typically talk to one another in line-ups! And yet just that can completely change the mood of someone’s day. Nevermind driving all that distance out of your way to do a good deed. Opportunities to care are all around us. :-) Good for you for not turning your back on that one!
Lori
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Frank November 3, 2011 at 6:17 pm

Lori,

As much as I would like to say this was a made up story, it was not. This was a real life situation. :-) It took every ounce of goodness in me to go out on the limb and help this guy out. I really, really, really like to eat.

The beauty of CARE ing is that there is no such thing as a small deed. A smile is all it takes to change someone’s day. :-) (I stole that quote from you.)
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Sabrina November 2, 2011 at 8:51 pm

Agree with Lori on this! It’s easy to make excuses why you can’t help but in the end even if it’s a bit out of your way that extra effort not only helps your friend but also helps yourself – doing things for others is soul food, after all :) .

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Frank November 3, 2011 at 6:19 pm

Sabrina,

Lori did hit the nail on the head with her comment. And I can say from experience that helping a friend in need was a much better feeling than a full stomach. I would rather make the world better by sharing than kill it by being selfish.
Frank recently posted..Burned Food: A Story of Building Confidence

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Claudia November 3, 2011 at 12:00 am

Nice to meet you Frank…what a great story! I could picture the whole scenario because, in one way or another, I, like so many others, have been there. Cranky, hungry, irritable and feeling that nothing is going right…what a perfect time to really stretch. To do exactly the opposite of what would seem intuitive…to be completely self-less. To go that extra mile. It’s easy to be caring when everything is going well in our life…it’s more impactful to demonstrate caring behavior when we ourselves are struggling. Thank you for a compelling story! And thank you Al for inviting another great guest here at your place…this is such fun!
Claudia
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Frank November 3, 2011 at 6:21 pm

Claudia,

It is a pleasure to meet you as well. I am glad you enjoyed the story you read. In fact this could be my story almost everyday of the week. I really need to do a better job of avoiding those emotions you shared above in your comment. I never thought I would be the person who would be willing to put someone else’s needs before my own. Now I don’t know how I ever lived without doing it. There is truly no feeling like it.
Frank recently posted..Burned Food: A Story of Building Confidence

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Jk Allen November 3, 2011 at 1:15 am

Hey Frank,

Love the story my friend. Putting others first is a awesome feeling…even if that feeling doesn’t come until after the fact. Sometimes, the initial thought is tough to take (putting others first), because we have our own agenda at hand. But the more we do it, the better things seem to workout, in general.

Thanks for sharing this, Frank.

And Al – thanks for hosting!
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Frank November 3, 2011 at 6:23 pm

Jk,

You are so right. During this whole situation all I kept thinking about was myself and how long this was going to delay my meal. I was tired and stuck in traffic and forgot all about the person who was in need. That’s what life is about, helping others. Because as we help others we really help ourselves.
Frank recently posted..Burned Food: A Story of Building Confidence

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Bill Dorman November 3, 2011 at 9:06 am

So, how did it feel driving with one arm? This happened to me once and I was so hungry I gnawed off my arm; I had to flip a coin to see which one was more expendable.

That was a good deed you performed and that gets you a little gold star up there somewhere. It is very easy to get consumed with the ‘me’ thinking and not realizing how much impact just reaching out to someone in need will make their day.

Thanks for sharing the story.
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Frank November 3, 2011 at 6:25 pm

Bill,

You know what man, I actually went for the legs first. I need my hands to type. Can’t blog without fingers. lol!

I hope I someday can get a few more gold stars but hopefully on a day after I eat dinner. I really like food a lot!
Frank recently posted..Burned Food: A Story of Building Confidence

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John Sherry November 4, 2011 at 8:57 am

Very noble story Frank and one we could all do with reading because how many times do we take the easy way out citing we’re too tired/hungry/busy/caught up to help out? Too often I’d say. Your story shows your friend (of a friend) left an indelible mark on you with his utmost gratitude for your efforts and kindness. And who will be on your side when you need fetching or giving a hand? Right. What we give come back twicefold in various forms not least personally because our heart stays warm and open, our personality approachable and friendly, and our character full of integrity and giving. Wonderful message Frank which I completely associate with you!
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Deeone November 10, 2011 at 12:44 pm

Good day, Frank and Al!

I figured I’d start here and catch up on the C.A.R.E. Movement, and boy am I ever so glad I did. I needed this message in ways that I can’t really go into at the moment. I will say this however, sometimes we are presented with an opportunity that is beyond us as to why the chance was given. In every situation we take there is a choice that we’re given to do the right thing or let the moment pass us by. The hustle and bustle of life can get distracting and before we know it, the opportunity has passed and the moment leaves only the memory that we should have done it when we had the chance. Frank, today you shined a light on what it means to take the chance, even when the moment is telling us that we have other things that we should be doing. I really appreciate the post, man. It was a great post to start back with. Thank you for sharing it, and thank you Al for the reminder that I needed to stop in on the movement. I appreciate you both. :)
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