guest blog post by John Falchetto
If You Really Care, Be Selfish
Do you really want to CARE? Be selfish. CARE, is a simple word and one we forget, too often. It’s not easy to care. That’s true. Why do we not care anymore? We weren’t born not caring. Nancy Davis reminded us earlier this month that it’s mostly a matter of trust. When we care about someone or something we become vulnerable and expose ourselves to deception and pain. We have all been hurt by someone in our lives. Some of us are still living in pain.
So why CARE?
A year ago I read an article about Jerry McLard, a 65 years-old homeless man. I printed out the story and pinned it to my cork board. The exceptional thing about Mr. McLard is that although he is homeless, he gave $2,500 to three different charities. This is a lesson we should remind ourselves, and not only as we approach Christmas. As we grow relationships online and our world becomes smaller thanks to social media and other tools, we grow disconnected from what really matters. Forget the discussions about trivial social media tools. That’s not what really matters. There is one person you really care about.
Start CARING for yourself
I have seen lives destroyed by artificial paradises, beautiful relationships disintegrate into dark places and all because of one reason, each person didn’t care enough about themselves. You are thinking I am asking you to be selfish? Not at all, quite the opposite to be selfless you need to be open to taking and accept the help of others. Nobody can live selflessly without being selfish and be open to other people’s caring attitude and kindness. Allowing others to be happy by gratifying their helping hand isn’t selfishness. It’s ok to ask for help. When McLard was sick he turned to the free clinic he just donated to for help. It would have been move selfish for him to suffer in silence or stand on pride that it would be to ask for help. Have more fun, be happier, it sounds selfish but by working to make yourself happier you will be far better equipped to make other people happy. Start by caring for yourself and extend it to others.
John Falchetto is a dad; entrepreneur and business coach obsessed with helping others find their unique path in life and business. He is a Canadian expat living in the south of France.